A Person of Your Word

When you’re truly comfortable in your own skin, your word becomes sacred. You stand behind it. You follow through. You show up as the person you say you are, not just when it’s easy, but when it’s inconvenient, messy, or costs you a little comfort.

On the other end of the spectrum are the people who promise one thing and deliver another. The plan-cancellers. The ghosters. The ones who vanish without explanation and then reappear with a half-hearted message that screams I’m not even committed to myself, let alone you.

It’s easy to take this personally, until you realise it has nothing to do with you. Their inconsistency is a mirror of their own uncertainty. And if you’re not careful, that uncertainty will try to tangle itself around you.

I think these are the most unsafe people, not because they mean harm, but because they’re unanchored. They don’t know who they are or what they want, so they float around attaching themselves to whatever feels shiny in the moment. And sometimes, that “shiny” is you.

If you’ve got any cracks in your own confidence, your ego might perk up when they notice you, Look, someone sees me!, and before you know it, you’re pulled into their orbit. Then comes the spiral: insecurity, confusion, overthinking every interaction like it’s a code to be cracked.

But here’s the truth: people who can’t even stand behind their own word are not safe to build anything with. And people who can? People who know who they are, what they stand for, and the value of their word? Those people are gold. No, better than gold. They’re rare minerals, formed under pressure, not afraid to be exactly what they are. Those people are absolutely worth keeping close.

Be one of those people. So stay solid. Stay the kind of person who backs their own words. And the next time someone wobbly tries to pull you into their uncertainty? Smile, step aside, and let them wobble on without you.